Writer's Block: It's Too Late to Apologize
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May. 7th, 2008 | 11:04 pm
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hmmm..lets see
I like these little "writers block" topics so I'm gonna start to answer them here n there.
I never think its too late to say "I'm Sorry" but it shouldnt just be something you say, it must be sincere and proven in some sort of way, I mean if someone hurts your feelings and say they apologize that doesn't mean you are all better and they fixed the problem..
I believe that communication is the KEY to pretty much everything, relationships especially.
If you have good communication then things should be able to flow smoothly, you can build friendship,love, trust and respect all through this simple seemingly simple task..It's crazy that so many people have problems communicating..so I came up with this little theory..
When you are having sex with someone you have no problem communicating to them..
Example: Don't Stop
That Feels Good
Touch Me There
Kiss Me Here
Etc..
So why is it that when the clothes go back on people can't do those same things?..I think if people learn to talk and communicate with each other better, instead of holding things in and becoming frustrated and eventually blowing up and fighting or acting out in a way that would hurt someone or lead to a situation to where you find yourself apologizing..
You can always say sorry, but its what you learn from your mistake no matter how big or little it may have been and how you react in the future if you are put in the same situation, are you going to do the same thing or try and change your ways and grow as a person..
people make mistakes now and forever..so if you cant apologize for them and try to make things right then what?
I can understand people not being able to get over things and accepting an apology but you can always try..it has to be wanted on both ends..
that's all for now! :)

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well put

From:Date: May. 8th, 2008 06:46 am (UTC)
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From:Date: May. 9th, 2008 02:13 am (UTC)
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That's how it is. Too bad not everyone feels that way. Definitely had a couple of relationships deteriorate when I was trying to communicate. :( Oh well. Such is life.
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Date: May. 9th, 2008 06:00 am (UTC)
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Kinda odd that I write this on the eve of my departure to my brother's wedding to a student-preacher (female) from Minnesota, where I will be the Best Man.
There is a lot more to relationships than sex.
And sex touches the deepest part of us humans in ways that nothing else can.
Even for people in porn, it may "just" be work, but for whoever is on the other side of the relationship, it may be eating them away silently until they explode.
There is a lot more to relationships than communication even.
Communication lets both parties know what each is up to, what their plans are, their dreams and aspirations, but it still doesn't put both sides on the same level of attunement to each other.
For that you need to have trust in each other and the faith that they will be true to you to the end, and you return that trust and faith likewise.
And when that trust is gone, so is the foundation stone of the relationship.
I hope you can work things out, I really do.
You will be in my prayers.
Hope & Faith,
Arnie.
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From:Date: May. 10th, 2008 06:40 am (UTC)
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I agree with your observations. A lot of people simply cannot vocalize what they want, in my opinion, out of fear of being seen as who they really are. Society tends to stress-fit people into a specific mold, dictating what is "acceptable". Relationships are the same way, to some extent. Two people become involved with each other, be it romantically or as friends, and begin to expect certain behaviors. Any deviation from this normal may be seen as undesirable, seeing as how people have an irrational fear of change, even though it is occurring around them constantly.
Fear is second only to love as the greatest driving force behind humanity's actions.
Learning is another of life's constants. Failures and mistakes build character and should be regarded as important events in building one's personality.
Just my two cents. Looking forward to your next blog!
Much Love,
-Chris
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Its always easier to ask for forgiveness than permission...
From: anonymous
Date: Jul. 22nd, 2008 01:45 pm (UTC)
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it may sound odd ended and maybe far off, but I observe most people are afraid of what some people think, say or do even when they have been the closest of friends at times or what seems like a life time... i still remember those little ready made answers that my art professors used to scold us about as we explained or expressed ourselves in our paintings, sculpture, welding, drawing and etc...
" if only we were able to let our boundries down or atleast a bit lower when we walk around town and run in to any stranger enough to say good morning and hopefully recieve a genuine answer back instead of " fine", i think sometimes i'd rather hear "crappy actually, mind if i vent with you for two minutes?" i seem to have such better days when you can suprise someone you don't know and will never have the chance to really get to know by opening a door and saying "u look sad today, are you alright miss?"
it's like everyone kind of walks around numb in a hurry getting to work dodging the honest responce : dealing a ready made answer just to get you out of their way to get that morning coffee." and everyone has done that a few times i'm sure in their life... i know i have, until you find that self realization that nips you on the bottom of your butt hehe...
yeah i think people might be afraid to be honest because they're not sure what people will say... so i guess the only sad result is that they certainly won't know if they don't ask or say they're sorry too... or say anything at all for that matter so it is always more benefitial to speak ur mind than say nothing at all...
wish i had more time to chat; maybe i'll check in from time to time...
-matthew-
mttbhrns@hotmail.com
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Its always easier to ask for forgiveness than permission...
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Date: Jul. 22nd, 2008 02:25 pm (UTC)
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Happy Birthday Kinzie...
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Date: Jun. 11th, 2009 10:15 am (UTC)
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